The other day I was having Girl Talk with a close friend of mine. We were discussing the intricacies of our dating lives and the conclusions we have come to through our experiences. What involved a long discussion and much self-revelation, we found out what relationships and dating in college have really boiled down to.
Guys, if you are like the vast majority of your kind–lost and confused as to what a girl wants–do pay attention. However, keep in mind this is life how I see it. Someone else may have a completely different perception.
What it all comes down to? Girls really don’t want a relationship. They want the kind of romance seen on movies. Ever wonder why ‘chick flicks’ are so popular? Yup, that’s why.
Girls want a guy who will do the unthinkable, cute (cheesy) stuff from the nerdy guy next door. Don’t act like you don’t know what I’m talking about. The storyline found in most chick flicks involves a pretty girl, an asshole jock (whom she currently seems to be dating due to the social ‘hierarchy’), and of course the nerd who is dubbed the nice guy in love with the girl out of his league.
Guys, how many times has this happened to you? You try to be That Guy–no not the asshole jock. The one who comes up with the creativity to impress the girl, but in the end your efforts seem nonexistent.
In real life this is what happens: the good guy will be there for her. You know, let her spill the beans about the latest d-bag she is dating, her friend drama, and family drama, basically all her secrets. You’re the guy who will pick her up drunk from the bar late at night but won’t end up in her bed. You’re the guy who is her best ‘friend’ she may occasionally flirt with, but only harmlessly. Til you find yourself falling for her. But, you don’t say or do anything due to the fact she’s just not that into you. You do the little things for her, get her the favorite chocolate, get her the most thoughtful presents for holidays and birthdays. Ring a bell with anyone?
What’s in it for you?
Absolutely nothing. Girls, at least college girls, like the thought of having the amazing boyfriend. But, when guys actually try to be that someone, rejection is in order. Could this be why guys have resulted to becoming assholes? Why, because it’s easier and girls like the chase.
Girls, if we were to break the cycle by taking a chance on that nice guy friend of yours who may in fact be a nerd, would things change?
Of course not, because college is all about the drama and figuring out who you are and what you want. So to all of those nice guys out there…Scratch that. To all those guys out there–because even assholes must have a heart somewhere–keep trying to bring out that nicer side of yourself. Maybe watch a chick flick or two and learn something.
The good guy always wins in the end. Maybe not today or tomorrow, or next month even.
Someday though, you’ll get the girl.
Agreements? Disagreements? Can I hear an “Amen?”
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